Step 1, get over yourself.
I lived a life of feeling sorry for myself. The injuries from my days in the Army took over my life. No exercise. Eating like crap. Barely sleeping. Drinking like a fish. Smoking like a chimney.
A recipe for disaster. So how do you fix it? Find one thing at a time and focus on that. My deep ah ha moment was when I was in college. I was 27 and a freshman. Holy culture shock. I thought I knew it all. I knew nothing. It was a shock to my ego for sure. Within a week I decided I needed to just suck it up and work harder than my classmates.
Then I was given the shock of my life. I lived in Massachusetts and was denied unemployment. They said I made too much in the Army. Um? The irony of those words. So to fight this, I got a job.
So getting over my thoughts of the world owed me something started a few weeks after becoming a civilian. This is a daily struggle. Not the job thing, but the life goes on and just make your own path by opening all the doors.
So step 1, get over it McCloud started a long time ago. It is a step that needs to be taken every day.
My focus changed from looking for the easy way out to working hard everyday and accepting that life will be difficult at times.